So what do you want?

This seems to be a common question when we talk to people about adopting.  We want what every parent wants when they are having children.  I know what they mean though.  Race?  Age?  Sex?  It seems that since you are adopting that you get to have your choice of what you want, but it's not that simple.  I can tell you what we think we want.  But, I could be all wrong.  What can I say?!  I'm not always right!  We could get a call eventually that someone has chosen us and the baby be completely opposite of what we had in mind, and we may fall head over heels for him/her.  Time will tell. 

Ideally, we would like to adopt domestically.  There may come a time when we decide to go beyond the borders, but for now we are sticking with the US.  Sex does not matter one bit to us.  You don't have the option when you conceive a baby (actually, you can try to scientifically - but I think you're messing with the wrong kind of stuff there!) so why be picky when adopting?  We don't have a preference of race either.  Call me selfish, but I would prefer an infant.  I want those "bonding from birth" experiences.  I may not get that, but if you ask me what age I want right now - that's my answer!  The other question that is asked is how we feel about special needs.  Since the category "special needs" is so vague, it just depends on the issue.  There are a lot of adoptive parents out there who, no questions asked, could take on anything that came their way.  I admire these people in a big way. 

So, though it's something we get asked a lot, I couldn't tell you 100% "what we want".  I know that things can change in an instant, and we're open to explore anything that comes at us.  I also know in my heart that when our baby comes along I know he/she will be exactly what we've been looking for and exactly what we want.